Many years back, I had the privilege of sitting in the back seat of a fairly well off church member’s car while he entertained a lawyer who had come on a business trip.
As we road around town, the church member began sharing with the lawyer about some of the challenges he was facing with one of his children who had no desire to work. The father had done all he could to get his “adult child” to work. At first, he opened up a business in a prime location, but the business failed because his “adult child” did not show any interest in taking care of the business. Later on, the father tried to get his “adult child” involved in another business, but just as before, he came to a dead end. He tried again for the third time to help his “adult child” only to come to financial losses because of his “adult child’s” unwillingness to work, manage or carry out any task.
As the father unburdened his heart, a deep silence broke out in the car. We could feel the father’s pain, and heartache. For about five minutes the three of us sat in the car in silence, contemplating the father’s challenges.
Finally the SDA member broke the silence by asking the lawyer, “What are you here for?”
The lawyer began sharing with us how he had been approached by a company from abroad that had plans to come to the region, invest, and open up a large business and that he was there to help the investors with processing the necessary documents, finding personnel and finally setting up the plant.
After a long and tedious explanation as to what he was doing, the member looked at the lawyer and asked him, “Do you want an honest, hardworking, capable young individual to work for you, someone who could manage well and make sure the business runs well?” Not knowing what to say, the lawyer asked, “Do you have someone in mind?” The member replied, “Yes”.
“Who do you have in mind?” asked the lawyer.
“My adult child,” replied the member.
At that moment, the lawyer turned and looked at me in disbelief. Could this really be happening? Was he REALLY asking him to hire his lazy child?
While some of us might think the dad was not with it for asking that question, the reality is that many of us do the same thing.
Over the years that I have used social media, I have seen members post on their Facebook pages, Twitter accounts, and other forms of social media outlets the “evils, apostasies, and heresies” of their church.
On those same accounts, members have their non-SDA friends, colleagues, and relatives who freely read what they are posting. When the day arises and the opportunity comes for them to share Jesus and invite these same people to church, I wonder what their friends, colleagues and relatives think of them?
We might be behaving just like that church member talking to the lawyer. By publically bashing the church and then inviting someone who has witnessed that bashing to come to church, we might not seem ‘with it’ either.
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Are you posting on social media wholesome thoughts to build others up and to benefit those who read?